Welcome to Crazy Town! NOW 'Trans' People Don't Want you to Even Ask their "Gender Pronouns", Consider you Homophobic for Not Knowing

According to Libtard's on Mashable



Pronouns are a big deal — and rightfully so. They’re the definitive way we acknowledge and respect a person’s gender in everyday conversation.



We all know using pronouns that honor a trans person’s gender is top priority to be a good ally. But often when talking about why correct usage is important, we use the phrase “preferred pronoun” to describe a person’s terms.



Using “preferred” to qualify someone’s pronouns suggests that terms they are claiming don’t really belong to them — they are just preferred over their “true” pronouns. In reality, a transman using “he” as a pronoun doesn’t just prefer that word over “she” — that is the only pronoun that is acceptable to use in reference to him.



The fix: Instead of asking someone’s preferred pronouns, ask, “What pronouns do you use?” It’s a small yet substantial difference.



Qualifying gender with the term “self-identified” may inadvertently suggest that a trans person’s identity isn’t actually valid. While Stryker says using the phrase “self-identified trans man” is perfectly fine when it’s necessary to indicate someone is out proudly as transgender, using it to qualify their gender (e.g., “self-identified man”) is a problem.



“It’s not OK to say ‘a self-identified man’ for a trans man because that would imply they were only a man to themselves, not others,” she says.



To put it another way, it would seem silly to call a non-trans man a “self-identified man,” since no qualifier is needed. Trans people deserve the same consideration of having their gender respected.



The fix: Just drop the “self-identified” bit.